“Success” – what comes to mind? Money? Fame? Prestige?
Today, when I use the word “success,” I mean it in the most stereotypical and superficial sense – achieving some external goal, particularly in regard to fame and fortune.
(I’m using “fame” broadly to refer any type of prestige or status – such as having a well-respected career title, or accolades within your company, or a lot of social media followers.)
(And by “fortune” I’m referring to any type of monetary achievement.)
In other words, for the purpose of this article, “success” means outer achievements; checking off boxes that most Americans would normally associate with the word.
Meaningfulness is anything that actually matters to you, makes you feel alive, gives you strong emotions, seems truly significant and worthwhile.
Meaningfulness can be passion, thrill, it’s something that feels significant to you; it’s chills from excitement, it’s warmth from connection, it’s beautifully bright, it’s colorful, it’s musical and catchy.
When you wake up on a Saturday morning as a kid, thrilled to be alive, you’re not thinking about “success.”
You’re just doing what you love. Probably really excited tosee people that you love.
Anyway, somewhere along the line we get scared.
And we get socially programmed; we start just doing what everyone else is doing.
Everyone seems to be trying to get money, and have the most prestigious job, and check all the right boxes in life – college, graduate school, secure respectable job, marriage, retirement.
And we figure we better do it too.
And maybe we’re just scared of what happens if we don’t. What if we don’t have enough money? What if we’re lonely?
Plus, success sounds so appealing. We start to get sold on all these things we could buy if only we could have enough money. Fancy cars. A fancy house – or three or four. A boat. Expensive clothes. And how cool is fame and prestige?? People will know and respect us.
And so, perhaps for a lot of us, we start to focus less on what really makes us feel alive – what’s really and truly meaningful and magical – and a lot more on “success.”
(It takes work to do this, and work to keep up the shift of focus. And you can stop any time you like. It’s just that everyone else seems to be doing it, and fear is a strong motivator, so we keep it up.)
But if you could just set down any fear you have for two minutes–
Maybe shake loose any preconceived notions we have for just a second or two…
What’s meaningful to you?
What makes you feel alive?
(Not as a way of finding some job, to help you make more money and get more success. Step outside of the whole capitalist lens with which we have all come to view the world.)
What if we genuinely focused on what we love, and what if that were the end goal, instead of money? Instead of harnessing our passions to ultimately make money, maybe we’d harness jobs – when helpful – to ultimately live our passions? (I.e., “I’m not doing this for the money, but because being here gives me an excuse to do ____”)
So, just genuinely, what makes you feel alive?
What feels magical and colorful to you when you focus on it?
What = chills of excitement to you?
What would you really, deeply, rather be doing right now?
Can you dare to step outside of the world of “success” and live in the world of meaningfulness for a little bit?
I propose we can live our lives prioritizing meaningfulness over success. And I think it’ll make us much happier (and might even still lead to all the basic success we need).
Oh, and another thing – while “success” necessitates outer accomplishment in the future, meaningfulness can be practiced right now – for example, in terms of how you treat others.
You can have meaningful interactions with people – like people you love, for example – right now, by treating them well. You don’t have to wait for financial success to do that.
(Extreme, but powerful, example: Victor Frankl, in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, describes his time in Nazi concentration camps – an experience utterly incompatible with our traditional notions of the word “success” – but one in which Frankl still manages to find meaning even in the midst of the camps, in how he helps and treats others. Ultimately, it gives him the will to live; it keeps him alive.)
There’s a powerful lesson to be learned there.
We’re only here on this planet for a little bit.
Let’s try focusing on meaning first, and success second.
***A note before we begin – this dietary approach is designed to optimize forreally only one thing: to help you live for a really long time. But it does that by keeping youvery healthy, so don’t be surprised if you start to feel a lot of positive downstream effects, like gaining more energy, or even losing quite a bit of body fat – perhaps even more than you’d expect – by following it.***
Alright, let’s get into it:
This post is primarily based primarily on Dan Buettner’s book Blue Zones.
In it, Buettner visits four “blue zones”– areas with percentages of “centenarians” (people aged 100+) and “supercentenarians” (people aged 110+) that are extremely high compared to average. Like WAYYY higher.
People just seemed to live a LOT longer in these places. And we didn’t know why.
So the natural question was: HOW are these people living so long?
The answer – to give away the book – is that as best as we can tell, it’s actually not genetic.
It’s what blue zone inhabitants do and eat– their lifestyles and diet – that make such a huge difference.
Lifestyle-wise, commonalities across ALL blue zones included:
Frequent daily exercise and walking, simply as part of the way of life, and
Strong familial ties and multi-generational living, or otherwise strong interpersonal connections
(If you want to live a long, youthful, healthy life, do those things.)
But what were these people eating?
And what were they not eating?
This post will show you what and how to eat so that you can follow a diet that is as close as possible, in my opinion, to the ones found in these blue zones.
First, lets introduce you to the key players, the blue zones in question:
Blue Zone 1: Sardinia.
Financially poor (but perhaps much richer in other ways), the blue zone towns in Sardinia were rural, undeveloped farming villages with not only plenty of centenarians, but inhabitants well into their 70s that retained incredible amounts of youthful vigor – walking five to ten hilly miles a day to tend to their sheep. Sardinians grew their own food and ate extremely lean diets of locally grown vegetables (tomatoes, zucchini, eggplant, etc.), fava beans, homemade bread, pecorino cheese, potatoes, sheep & goat’s milk, and occasionally, meat. They drank a cup of flavanoid-rich red wine a day.
Blue Zone 2: Okinawa.
Financially poor as well, but rich in familial ties and close bonds with lifelong village friends, the blue zone village in Okinawa featured year-round gardens that supplied most of the food. Inhabitants ate vegetables, soups, rice, tofu, occasional pork, and drank tea (e.g., Jasmine tea) throughout the day. The herbs mugwort, ginger, garlic, and turmeric were common. Locals prized their moai (or tight group of friends for mutual support, word of mouth job-postings, and more) above all else, and saw them every day. They had a habit of saying hara hachi bu before each meal – which roughly translates to “eat until you are 80% full.”
Blue Zone 3: Loma Linda, CA.
This one American blue zone consisted of devout Seventh-Day Adventists that followed a strict diet rich in nuts, very low in meat, and with a huge focus on drinking lots of water. Many of the locals were vegetarians, or lacto-ovo vegetarians (they ate eggs, and dairy). Walking, and power-walking, were prevalent, as were health stores stocked with organic foods and nuts.
Blue Zone 4:Costa Rica.
The blue zone village of Nicoya in Costa Rica was yet another location that was not financially wealthy but had inhabitants that lived long, healthy lives. Locals farmed and ate their own food, particularly beans, eggs, homemade corn tortillas, fruit, and pork. While it’s true that usually women live longer than men, the men in Nicoya, Costa Rica seemed to live particularly long lives. The men here also tended to have very liberal attitudes toward sex, and multiple sexual partners throughout life. Other cornerstones of the Nicoyan lifestyle included hard work in the fields, plenty of sun, and excellent sleep come nightfall.
So how do you eat like a blue zone local?
To give the shortest answer possible:
Pretend like you’re a farmer in, say, Sardinia or Nicoya, and eat only what that person would eat.
To help with that, I’ve noticed four principles common to the inhabitants of every blue zone:
1) They eat plant-based diets.
While each blue zone has its own local diet, and they all differ somewhat, one common theme is thatmost of the food comes from home-grown vegetables, and fruit. Therefore, getting as much of your food as possible from veggies is probably the single most important thing you can do to to eat in a blue-zone style. Think of veggies, and fruits, as your go-to foods;as the backbone or cornerstone of your diet.
2) They eat NO refined food.
These people haven’t had a Big Mac or a Coke in their entire lives. They eat simple diets, and could tell you the ingredient of every single thing they put in their body (they’ve mostly grown it all themselves!). On the other hand, even if I tried, I couldn’t tell you all of the ingredients, chemicals, additives, stabilizers, dyes, etc., in a box of Cap’n Crunch cereal. I’d have to look it up. But these people eat things where knowing every ingredient is easy (e.g., “A potato.” “An onion.” “Pork.” Simple, healthy, unrefined, whole foods.)
3) Everything they eat is what we could call “Organic.”
By nature of the fact that they’re growing it themselves, their foods are not laden with the pesticides found in American Big-Agriculture mass-farming methods. The best way to recreate this, short of growing your own food, is buying as much of your food as possible “organic” or “pesticide free.” Either one is fine. Keep in mind that EVERYTHING these guys in Sardinia or Okinawa or Nicaragua eat is essentially organic. So to follow this diet as closely as possible, make sure just about everything you put in your body is specifically labeled as organic or pesticide-free. (This is difficult, but I try to tell myself, “If these very financially poor guys in rural farming towns can do it, then so can you!”)
4) They eat in moderation.
These guys don’t glut themselves on food. They don’t keep eating until their stomachs are stuffed full – instead, they eat until they’re not hungry. Some cultures (like in Okinawa) even specifically praise and ritualize moderation as a healthful practice (as in the saying “hara hachi bu” or “eat until you’re 80% full”). To practice this moderation yourself, simply try being mindful of everything that you eat – simply be aware of the taste, feeling, and level of fullness you experience during every single bite. To really understand mindful eating, it helps to explain its opposite – e.g., mindlessly downing a bunch of chips while watching TV, without even realize it, because you’re so distracted. Another example of mindless eating would be just shoving down the remaining food on your plate, even though you’re not hungry, to sort of “get it over with” and “get your money’s worth” (something I’m guilty of). Don’t do that – instead, be mindful and aware of each bite, enjoy your food, and only eat when you’re hungry.
Plant based, unrefined, organic, and mindful (or “in moderation”).
(But I think I have to elaborate a little bit on 2 and 3, and clear up ONE thing really quick.)
Locals in these blue zones do eat bread.
But it is NOTHING like the bread we eat here in the United States.
(If you want to understand why, read the quick aside below. If not, just skip it.)
Blue zone locals grow their own wheat or other grains, and then use it to make bread. Simple.
In America, you can be fairly confident, with just about any bread you eat, that is was created with wheat genetically engineered by American Agro-Chemical company Monsanto(the poster child for unethical farming practices, harmful environmental procedures, genetically modified food, and heavy pesticide use.)
What Monsanto has done is genetically engineer a strain of wheat that is incredibly difficult to kill (I’ve heard it described as “virtually indestructible” by Haylie Pomroy). This allows the crops to withstand being doused with glyphosate,the active chemical found in RoundUp. (Their genetically modified strains are literally called “RoundUp-Ready Crops” – TM). The GMOs, combined with heavy RoundUp use, make it easy to inexpensively grow and desiccate a lot of crops, but the health effects are questionable.
Then, this glyphosate-coated Monsanto-GMO-wheat is refined into flour, a process in which the healthiest two thirds of the grain – the “bran” and “germ” – are removed.
Then, refined sugar is added (because Americans are used to everything tasting so sweet), to make what we in the U.S. know as bread.
SO, if you want to follow the blue zone diet – even though blue-zone locals eat bread – you can’t just go to any supermarket and buy “bread” and think that it is similar in any way.
Instead, you have to specifically find Organic, Whole Wheat bread, with no sugar added.
(The good news is I’ve already done this: just buy Ezekial Bread. It’s a bit more expensive, and due to lack of preservatives doesn’t last too long in a pantry, but is well priced at Trader Joe’s and can be stored in the fridge or freezer.)
So what else can you eat on a general blue zonediet? Well, keeping in mind that it should all (or as much as possible) be organic, and that basically everything should be eaten mindfully:
Any type of vegetables (carrots, zucchini, squash, lettuce, kale, onions, etc.)
Fruits (ORGANIC strawberries, blueberries, apples, etc. Bananas, or any fruits with a peel, don’t need to be organic due to the thick peel protecting the inner edible portion from pesticides.)
Organic peanut butter
Oats (again, get organic so they’re not covered with glyphosate)
Fruit Juice (in moderation)
Lean meats like pork and chicken
Organic whole wheat or organic corn tortillas
Organic honey or agave nectar (in moderation; it’s basically sugar)
Dark chocolate, cacao
Organic potatoes and sweet potatoes
Healthy cheeses (e.g., goat cheese, feta)
Lots and lots of water
It’s worth noting that a few things that many diets disallow are actually totally fine – or fine in moderation – as part of a blue zone diet.
For example, on a blue zone diet:
Drinking a glass or two of red wine a day is totally okay. Many diets strictly forbid alcohol, but the flavanoids in red wine have anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant effects. (Note, though, that moderation is required; because beyond 1-2 glasses, wine can quickly become much more harmful than it is beneficial.)
Drinking coffee is also totally fine. Locals throughout Nicaragua and Sardinia seemed to drink tonsof coffee, and it didn’t seem to stop them from living past 100. In fact, coffee may have some health benefits itself: studies show coffee consumption seems to be correlated with a lower risk of type 2 diabetes, lower risk of certain cancers, and much lower risk of Alzheimer’s & dementia. (To be clear, I’m talking about black coffee. A highly sweetened pumpkin spice latte doesn’t count.)
Legumes/beans (which are not allowed on a Paleo diet, or Whole30) are totally acceptable. Beans have a ton of fiber and nutrients; they’re a super healthy.
Fruit, which isn’t allowed in a Slow-Carb diet, is a staple. Fruits have vitamins, minerals, fiber, and tend to protect against cancer.
Organic whole wheat/grains/rice (which aren’t allowed in either Slow-Carb, Paleo, Keto, OR Whole 30) are all totally fine. (Just, of course, everything has to be eaten mindfully and in moderation.)
On the other hand, a blue zone diet is more restrictive in other regards:
Meat, which is a critical and encouraged part of Paleo, Whole 30, Slow Carb, and Keto, is allowed, but cautioned to be eaten in moderation, and high-saturated-fat meats – e.g., red meats like steaks and hamburger patties, or salami or pepperoni, etc. – are totally avoided. (To follow the general blue zone approach, stick to pork, turkey, or chicken – or, I suppose elk, deer, or bison. These lean meats tend to be very filling, good for maintaining muscle, and excellent for general fat loss.)
Artificial-chemical-laden drinks and foods, even if they have no calories or sugar (like my beloved Diet Coke!) are totally forbidden. Dang it.
I know we covered a lot, but just think: organic, unrefined, simple whole foods. And remember, eating like a true blue zone local is way more restrictive in some ways, but much more forgiving in others. If you want to follow this diet, but have trouble keeping to it, try just getting one or two habits to stick at first. For example, just switch out all the bread you eat for Ezekial bread. Or have rice, potatoes, and veggies instead. Or, decide to at least just buy a few affordable options – such as carrots and sweet potatoes – organic from now on. That’s an excellent start.
All in all, I suggest these blue zone locals can give us somewhat of a “north star” to follow in terms of health. Whatever they’re eating and doing, it seems to be helping them be healthy, enough to live a long time. And even if we can’t follow their example perfectly, we can strive to eat like they do as much as possible.
In our last article we discussed incredible power of emotional contagion, and how – due to our tendency to subconsciously mirror others – emotions are extremely contagious. Because of this, with a little self-awareness, you can guide your emotions to positively influence others.
One specific, actionable, and incredibly powerful way to go about doing this is simple: smile at someone.
Or, as I prefer to say, give them a smile.
This simple act may be a bit more powerful than you realize.
What can smiling at someone do?
Well, if you’ve read this post, you probably already realize that it has the power to influence someone else’s mood for the better – actually changing the chemicals in their brain a little bit, to help them be a little bit happier.
But in addition to that, smiling can also make you happier.
According to The As If Principle, a research-backed book about how our outer actions affect our moods and thoughts, simply acting as if you are feeling a certain way tends to make you actually feel that way.
Let’s pause and talk about this for a second:
According to The As If Principle, if you can get someone to act as if they feel a certain way, then they will tend to actually start to feel that way.
For example, have you ever heard stories of actors who have played love interests, who have gone on to develop feelings for each other? That’s the “as if” principle at work.
Another example mentioned in the book was a sneaky experiment designed to get people to effectively “play footsie” with each other. This was covertly accomplished by having the subjects play poker, but allowing certain pairs to cheat by tapping signals to each other’s feet under the table. (Thus, the cheating pairs more or less went through the physical motions of “playing footsie” – and afterward, they rated their partner as more attractive.)
WHAT’S THAT ALL MEAN?
Basically, even just goingthrough the motions of feeling a certain way – even if it’s for a different *apparent* purpose– (i.e., “to make a movie,” “to cheat at cards”) – causes people to actually feel the related feelings.
In other words, you can basically trick yourself to do something that will,as a side effect, conjure certain emotions.
So, back to smiling:
Do you want to be happier?
Well, you could go through the motions of smiling. According to The As If Principle, simply the act of smiling (ideally for at least 20 seconds) will improve your mood.
But guess what? Just forcing yourself to smile is really weird and hard.
It’s…like…oddly hard to do. Go ahead, try it right now, maybe you’ll have some success:
Relax your face, pull the corners of your lips to the side, squint the edges of your eyes. (People’s eyes crinkle at the corners in genuine smiles). Smile wider. …Wider. Show teeth! Hold it for 20 seconds.
If you can pull it off, it’ll actually make you feel a bit better. (Practicing helps.)
But if this is uncomfortable for you, there’s another option. Sort of like the psychologists did in the sneaky “poker game/footsie” experiment, you may have to “trick” yourself into smiling – and provide yourself a different reason to act the intended way.
And guess what?
It’s actually much eaiser to “give” someone else a smile, to help them feel good, than it is to just smile for yourself.
So try giving someone else a smile. Try using the concept of “emotional contagion” to help improve someone else’s mood.
Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on the other person, on helping them. Really try to “give” good vibes to that person, to wish them well, with a smile.
…And as a pleasant side effect, just the act of smiling at them will make you feel much happier.
And hey, they might just actually catch your good mood.
In fact, who knows, you might just end up making their day.
Here’s a simple mental framework that I find to be incredibly useful:
Offensive vs. Defensive Thinking.
In general, “Offensive Thinking” is thinking about what you want, or things you like, and how to move toward that.
“Defensive Thinking” is considering what you don’t want want, and planning ways to avoid it.
For example, taking some time to go on a vacation, think about what you really want, and set some goals – that’s offensive thinking. Pursuing a passion, trying out learning a new skill, making a commitment to seeing friends you love – all offensive thinking. It’s pleasure-seeking, positive, and not fearful.
If you are thinking about a problem that might occur and trying to keep it from happening, that’s defensive thinking. A reasonable example might be considering how a boss or supervisor might react to an email you’re about to send, and taking some time to craft your phrasing to avoid possible problems. Defensive thinking is pain-avoiding. It’s often fearful.
I propose both types of thinking can be useful, at certain times.
Sometimes, it makes sense to think about what you want, and to go after your passions, and to take time away from worries to actually do what you love.
Sometimes, it makes sense to think and take steps to protect yourself from a negative outcome you wish to avoid.
However, much like with problem anticipation, we all tend to get stuck in “Defensive Thinking Mode” almost all the time.
I think if you take some time to consider it, you’ll agree:
We are CONSTANTLY thinking DEFENSIVELY.
Here’s the thing:
Alittle defensive thinking goes a long way. We don’t really need much of it.
And there are fundamental limits to what you can achieve via defensive thinking.
Defensive thinking – even at its very best – can still only help you try to minimize a potential downside to something. It won’t really help you grow, and it won’t really help you achieve anything you want.
Defensive thinking, alone, never produces insane success or deep happiness. All it can lead to is: “well at least that didn’t happen quite as badlyas it could’ve.”
Further, defensive thinking begets more, fearful, defensive thinking. If you’re wondering about things that could go wrong and how to stop them, your brain will start to come up with more things that could go wrong – and how to stop them. It’s easy to fall in a defensive thinking trap where you’re just scrambling to protect the status quo, and not actually growing. You’re afraid, protective, and playing defense.
So, I believe it’s important to time constraindefensive thinking. It’s important to be aware and notice when you’re in this mode and ask yourself:
“Is it reallythat important to be thinking these thoughts right now?”
You may be surprised to find that you can significantlycut down on your own “defensive thinking” with ZERO downside.
So what, do I propose, should you focus on?
In its simplest, and broadest form, offensive thinking is really any type of thought that seems to movetoward what you want. It feels good.
(While the most obvious example of offensive thinking is daydreaming about things you desire, setting goals, and going after them, I think the definition can be even broader than that.)
I propose: anytime you “set down” your current thinking patterns – taking a break from all the defensive thoughts you’ve been ruminating on – you’re actually thinking offensively.
Anytime you get away from your normal routine – whether it’s a new environment, or a road trip, or a vacation, or a flight – you’re thinking offensively. You’re opening yourself up to new possibilities. Even mentally “setting down” your current goals – to see if you’re actually going after what you truly want – is a form of offensive thinking.
Anytime you ask yourself what you really desire, anytime you listen to your gut – your emotions – and do what feels right and feels good – ANYTIME YOU’RE DOING ANYTHING THAT RESONATES WITH THE WORD “PASSION” – you’re thinking offensively.
So do whatever you have to do to get the hell out of “defensive thinking mode.”
Even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Stop thinking about what might go wrong, and how to protect yourself. Stop thinking about all the downsides, problems, risks. Just for a few minutes.
And instead, focus on what you love. Focus on what excites you. Think about what sounds enjoyable, and make that happen. Go towards pleasure, rather than just away from pain.
(What you’ll find is, not only does your life become more enjoyable when you do this, but you’ll realize that often, offense really is the best defense.)
(Sometimes, the best way to protect yourself from all those anticipated downsides, instead of worrying about them, is in fact to simply go after what you ACTUALLY want.)
Focus on what resonates with you, and feels good. Focus on that.
To paraphrase the words of Tim Ferris –
Whatever you thinkfailure is, whatever you’re afraid of – that’s not failure.
True failure is the boredom from not even trying anything that actually excites you.
And true success is the excitement that comes from going after what you love.
You have an incredible, awesome power to influence the moods of those around you.
If you wish, you can hurt, upset, anger, or scare others. You can also help others feel peaceful, happy, excited, humorous, loved, or any other emotion you can think of.
And I don’t just mean through your words.
In fact, your most powerful tool for influencing the emotions of those around you is not what you say – it’s what you feel.
That’s because emotional contagion is a real phenomenon. (Yes, I’ve read the scientific bookby that same title. Feel free to google around for scholarly articles with the same key-phrase.)
Emotions are incredibly contagious.
In the same way that someoneyawning next to you might cause you to yawn – in fact, even thinking about the idea of yawning might cause you to want to yawn right now – the emotions others feel have the habit of creeping up on us as well.
When someone is angry at you, tense, aggressive, and flips you off, in a second you feel your own blood boil as you “catch” their tension.
When you’re around friends who are relaxed, and in a humorous mood – sharing a knowing smile that holds in laughter – you may find yourself unconsciously smiling as well.
By and large, our brains are incredibly adept at noticing the emotions in others faces (or deciphering what others would be feeling given their situation), and subconsciously mirroring them, triggering the same emotions in ourselves.
This “emotional contagion” is at the core of just about every interpersonal interaction. People like watching sports because they feel the same thrill that the winning players do; people like watching romance movies to feel the same rush as the principle characters. And every single interpersonal interaction, every conversation, is – at its core – an exchange of emotions.
You see, you can affect others’ emotions, but they can also affect yours. True, some people are less affected by others, while some are more affected. Similarly, some people’s emotions are more contagious, while some people’s are less. (Perhaps you know someone whose tension and irritability can darken a whole room, but whose smile and ease can immediately brighten it back up?)
But the thing is, whether we recognize it or not, weare all, to at least some degree, directly influencing the emotions of others around us, just by osmosis – just by feeling what we’re feeling. We have an incredible power to affect the moods of others. It’s almost like a genuine superpower.
Except, as the saying of course goes, with great power comes great responsibility.
-Uncle Ben, Spiderman
Once you recognize that you – yes, YOU –have great power over the emotions of those around you, you start to think about the kinds of emotions you want to share.
It’s worth asking yourself:
How do you want people to feel?
Really, if you could make people feel however you wanted, how would you want them to feel?
Do you want people around you to feel scared, angry, tense? Because you really do have the power to make that happen if you wish.
But I suspect you don’t truly want that. I suspect you may want the people around you to feel peaceful, loved, humorous, excited, happy. And you have the power to make this happen as well.
Of course, in order to do so, you have to cultivate those emotions in yourself. This can take a little work, especially with the outside world flinging so many contagious emotions at you. But with a little help from physiological emotion hacking, a little mindfulness, and a little directed positive focus, I suspect you could – if you really wanted to – nudge your mood at least somewhat in a positive direction. If not for yourself, then for others, to help those around you feel better.
Because you really do have the power to brighten someone’s day.
You have the power to help someone feel peaceful when they’re scared, or loved when they’re lonely.
You have the power to subtly lift the mood of a room, if you really want to, when people seem upset and angry.
You have the power to help others smile, laugh, and feel good about being alive.
Now does it work perfectly and instantaneously? Can you just pick however you want to feel, immediately feel that way, and immediately make everyone else feel that way, all the time, starting now? Maybe not quite.
But with a little self awareness, practice, patience, and persistence (definitely patience and persistence, sometimes it takes a while to calm someone down who’s in a bad mood), you may find that you surprise yourself with your ability to affect others for the better.
And damned if there isn’t a cooler superpower than that.
Asymmetric Risk/Reward refers to any situation where the potential benefit is much greater than the potential loss.
It’s anything where you stand to GAIN a lot, and only risk a little.
According to traditional thinking, if you want higher returns, you must take more risk. Sometimes, this is true. But sometimes it’s not. Sometimes there are opportunities where only taking a little risk will still expose you to enormous potential reward.
And if you start really looking out for opportunities like this, I guarantee you you’ll find some.
Financially speaking, one possible example of this could be a well placed, inexpensive call option. (Call options are essentially a way to bet that a stock will go up.) If you purchase an inexpensive call option for a stock you think may go up a lot, you could be exposing yourself to the wonders of asymmetric risk/reward. That is because with call options, you have a finite amount of money you can lose, and a potentially unlimited amount of money to gain. (i.e., your losses are capped, but your gains are uncapped.)
*Obviously options trading entails risk. Do not consider this financial advice in any way; it’s simply to illustrate the concept.*
But here’s the bigger point:
Asymmetric Risk/Reward doesn’t just occur in investing. It’s EVERYWHERE.
Once you start looking, asymmetric risk/reward opportunities are everywhere.
Want another example of asymmetric risk/reward opportunity? Go meet new people. For very little risk, you may make a new best friend, meet a new romantic partner, or perhaps meet someone who will be an incredible business partner. Meeting new people is one of the best examples of asymmetric risk/reward, because you stand to lose almost nothing (i.e. – a little time), but you stand to gain possibly everything – romantically, financially, you name it. (And hey, if you don’t like the person, you don’t have to see them again.)
Or another underrated example? Cruise online job boards and look for new jobs – for the cost of zero dollars you just might discover something really interesting, fun, and lucrative. Heck, if you can do it without losing your current source of income, go trya second job – the risk is minimal; you can always just quit if you don’t like it. And you may love it and discover your next passion.
Or go to a bookstore or library. You may learn something incredible that could improve your financial life, your dating life, or your health, all for the price of a book (or for free, if it’s at a library). A single really good, informative read at the right time can literally change the course of your life for the better.
Or travel somewhere new,try a new class, or join some other community. You may discover somewhere, something, or someone you absolutely love, or people that can help you achieve your goals in a massive way. At the very least, you may meet someone thatknows someone who could help you achieve your goals.
While all these are just examples, they have something in common: they involve little actual risk – they’re inexpensive, or don’t take much to try – but they expose you to enormous possibilities.
There really are huge, home-run opportunities out there.
By continually exposing yourself to massive upside – even without necessarily taking huge risks – you’re likely to enjoy some incredible successes.
Just keep your eyes open for these opportunities, these asymmetric risk/reward situations that cost very little but could potentially change your life.
Good luck, and may the odds be ever in your favor.
If you really want to sound fancy, just throw in the term “Geo-Arbitrage” into any conversation and let people try to figure out what it means.
Let me break it down for you though:
Geo: As in “geography,” referring to location.
Arbitrage: A fancy word for taking advantage of price differences to make money or benefit in some way.
Example of basic arbitrage:
Imagine you know of two online sites that allow you to buy and sell clothes.
If a certain style of shirt is selling everywhere on Site A for 10$, but you find the exact same style on Site B selling everywhere for $4.50…...
do you think you could take advantage of that in some way to make money?
(Yeah – you could buy it from site B for $4.50 and immediately sell it to someone on site A for $10.)
***Notice that in the arbitrage example, you didn’t really do anything particularly valuable, you simply noticed a difference in prices for the same thing, and benefited off of it. That’s arbitrage.***
That’s the general concept. Price differences can be exploited.
Geo-Arbitrageis really simple.
Essentially, it’s just the idea that some places are much cheaper than others.
(To use fancier terminology, we could say “some currencies are much ‘stronger’ than others.”)
And you can benefit from this.
Want to really understand this concept?
Do what I did. After living in the United States your entire life, go to Mexico on a vacation.
What you’ll notice is that 1 USD buys you, at the time of this writing, about 20 Mexican pesos.
So even a few dollars can go a long way in Mexico.
(For example, if you want to buy three fairly authentic Mexican-Style street tacos in the States, it may cost you about $8.50 USD. I know because I just did it yesterday.)
But, you can buy 3 incredibly delicious street tacos in Mexico for like $3 or $4 USD. (I know because I just did it two days ago.)
The same thing applies to most everything in Mexico. The U.S. Dollar is strong relative to the Mexican Peso, and most things are inexpensivethere, at least in terms of U.S. Dollars.
The exact same concept applies to other Central and South American Countries (e.g., Argentina), and Southeast Asia (e.g. Thailand).
Now think – how can you maximally benefit from this?
Well for one, you could go on vacation to these places, for surprisingly inexpensive travel. Oftentimes, in the right countries, you can afford super luxurious experiences for very low prices, just because of currency differences.
Or two, you could retire in one of these places – save up enough money in USD and then bring it over to the cheaper country, to enjoy an easy, early retirement where your USD goes a long way. (Leave all unspent money growing in an investment portfolio in USD, which you pull money from as needed.)
Or three, you could work remotely in these places (especially now that more jobs are available for remote work), and earn money in U.S. Dollars, which you then convert and spend in the local country, where your money will go a long way.
In fact, by keeping in mind the principle of Geo-Arbitrage, traveling can be less expensive than staying in one place and paying rent.
Instead of paying expensive rent in your home country, you could decide to move out, stop paying that high rent, travel long-term and enjoy incredible experiences in countries where your currency goes a long way – and still have a lower cost of living than staying home.
Today we’re discussing a very simple principle to better know yourself and capitalize on your strengths.
Out of all the different “personality tests” and “personality types” that exist, it’s one basic personality distinction that has ACTUALLY been incredibly helpfulto me:
INTROVERSION VS. EXTRAVERSION*
(*I’ve seen this word also spelled “extroversion” but I hear that “extraversion” is technically the more science-y way to spell it.)
Now before we get a little more into the details of what it means to be extraverted or introverted, I’m going to immediately point out that everyone is a bit of both.
No one is purely one or the other – you probably exhibit some characteristics of eachtype.
That being said, almost everyone leans at least a bit to one side or the other.
More introvertedpeople tend to value time by themselves. They tend to be more quiet, thoughtful, and reserved. They’re often self-aware and insightful. Being out around crowds, in very stimulating environments, or socializing with others is “draining” or “exhausting” to them.
More extraverted people are outgoing, love being out around others, and thrive off of social energy. They’re often friendly, talkative, and can be excellent at meeting and charming others. Being alone for too long is “isolating,” “lonely,” or “boring” to them.
(Do you immediately see yourself relating a little bit to each? Or that you really lean toward one side?)
It’s quite useful to take some time to think about which one you lean towards (and how much you lean toward it), and see if you can optimize your lifestyle to match that tendency.
Matching your lifestyle to your specific level of introversion/extraversion will tend to make you happier, but it will give you something else:
Possibly more than anything, the introversion/extraversion dichotomy describes how you get your energy.
Remember how being out around others is “exhausting” to introverts?? That’s a perfect example. Introverts get energy from being alone; being out with others requires them to spend energy. They need to get some time alone afterward to “recharge.”
If you’re an introvert, one of the things you can do is schedule and prioritize time alone. Treat it as vital. Make sure that you’re aware,in advance, that being around crowds and engaging in social activities is going to be draining, so try to time-constrain these activities.
If you’re an extravert, on the other hand, one of the most powerful things you can do is start spending more time with more people throughout the day. Seeing more people – even if it requires sort of ‘doing more,’ in a sense – may actually leave you feeling more energized.
(This works in almost the same way as active recovery, where doing certain activities more frequently is also counterintuitively energizing.)
If you think you might be more the extraverted type, experiment with packing your schedule more with seeing friends, getting out of the house, or at the very least getting work done with other people around – in a coffee shop, for example.
(I’m typing this in a coffee shop right now, by the way.)
If you’re an introvert, and you find yourself stuck with others the majority of the day, try scheduling some sacred time to yourself to journal, do something you enjoy, or just be alone with your thoughts. Does that sound like it would be lonely or boring to some? It’s likely very energizing to you. Protect that time.
If you’re an extravert, and you find yourself plopping down on the couch after work to flip on the TV, try using that time to go see people you enjoy instead. Does that sound too exhausting to some, after a long day of work?
You may find that you actually do have the energy to do it, because seeing them will energize you and leave you feeling better. Try it out and see.
Take some time to get familiar with how introverted or extraverted you are. And – while of course always prioritizing basic emotional self-care –match your lifestyle to your introversion/extraversion level.
IMPORTANT NOTE –
Okay, this is a little bit complicated, but here goes: You may be somewhat of an introvert, but you may be spending too much time alone for your specificlevel of introversion. Similarly, you may be somewhat extraverted, but actually spending a bit too much time with others for your specific extraversion level. (A lot of extroverts who constantly work around people seem to experience this social burnout, and a lot of introverts who keep to themselves don’t get quite enough social time). Find the golden amount for you. Be sure to experiment. Try being around people more.* (Or maybe less, if necessary.) Find the perfect amount to maximally energize you.
*Especially people you like.
You may be surprised with the incredible amounts of energy you gain by getting this right.
The definition: “Low intensity exercise that a person performs after higher intensity exercise to improve their recovery and performance” (1)
(Basically, some easy exercise you throw in to the mix, to help you feel better.)
Now I’ve heard the phrase before, but I’ve always just dismissed it.
It always just sounded like a sneaky way of trying to get me to do more work.
“I’ve already done my exercise,” would be the thought, “I’ve paid my price, can’t I just relax now? I’m not about to go do more. Sounds miserable.”
I was so wrong.
Active recovery is the exact opposite of “miserable.” It feels amazing. And it helps you, in general, feel so much better, and so much happier.
The gist is simple – sometime after you’ve done some more intense exercise (maybe later that day, or maybe the next day), throw in some active recovery – a gentle swim in a pool is a perfect option, but so is yoga, gentle hiking, easy walking, brisk walking, or doing a walk-jog (just go on a walk, and while you’re out, jog whenever you feel up to it). Even using a sauna counts, in my book. (Really.) If your fitness level is high enough, going on an easy run may actually count as active recovery for you.
(But you have to get it right so it’s not too hard. I think for most people, a nice walk, or a gentle swim in a pool, are just the right amount of intensity.)
Now here’s a crucial perspective change:
Active recovery is not about calorie-burn.
It’s not about going hard, burning, or trying to “sneak in” more exercise.
It’s about taking care of your body in a way that feels really good– helping your muscles and cardiovascular system recover, and releasing all kinds of feel-good hormones. It’s about self-care. (Self-love, even?)
Which is a really big shift from the way most people view exercise (i.e., “I’m gonna go as hard as I can and punish my body because the harder I go, the more calories I burn, and the more fat I lose!!! No pain, no gain!!”)
For active-recovery, you have to shift your mindset. You gotta think “I’m doing this gently, I’m taking care of myself. Frequencyover intensity, a little sweat and slightly harder breathing, over intense calorie burn.”
Oh, and yes – it really does help you recover better and faster.
Which is kind of counter-intuitive.
You’d think that after some intense exercise, just resting as much as possible would be the best thing to do.
(And YES, it is CRITICAL to rest deeply after workouts. It is important to just relax, get some deep sleep, take some time to just totally unwind, and completely indulge in some hard-earned lazy do-nothingness.)
BUT, if you can introduce a little active recovery between workouts, you WILL FEELSO MUCH BETTER. Your body will love you for it. And you’ll know. Those feel-good chemicals will flood your system. You’ll recover faster. Your overall energy levels will improve.
You may just feel like Superman.
(Or Superwoman.) (Or Superthey.)
And if you haven’t done any intense exercise yet?
If you have nothing to active-recover from?
Just start active-recovering anyway.
Just start getting out there with this sort of mindset. Aim for feeling good, for finding just the right amount of intensity FOR YOUthat doesn’t feel painful, just helps you breathe a little harder, and gently pushes you. Get out and go on a walk, or treat yourself to a sauna.
Just start taking care of your body and active-recovering. Do it as much as you can.
(You can throw in some more intense exercise later.)
What you’ll notice, though, by throwing in very gentle active recovery as much as possible, is that not only will you feel better, but you’ll start to be able to do things you never thought possible.
Your fitness level will improve sneakily, to the point where you find yourself actually being able to pull off exercise you didn’t think you could do.
You may find yourself out on a walk for the first time ever thinking “you know what, I feel pretty good, I’m gonna jog for a brief stretch.”
Or you may find yourself going on runs, or cycling, for the first time in your life, finally feeling like it’s an achievable (and actually somewhat enjoyable!) activity.
And if you’re already at a high fitness level, you may start to find that you can recover, run, train, at an entirely new level – and still feel great.
I find it helps to keep in mind these words when approaching active recovery:
My last two tips when it comes to implementing a philosophy of frequent active recovery into your lifestyle:
1.) Drink a lot of water.
Water is incredible and underrated. It helps with just about everything. For various reasons, drinking lots of water helps you lose weight, build muscle, feel good, and recover incredibly well. Ever since I started carrying a hydro-flask around with me wherever I go (and thus having frequent access to lots of water), I’ve experienced a noticeable improvement in my recovery time from workouts.
2.) (Optional) Try bone broth.
“Bone broth? The hell is that? Sounds creepy. And difficult to come by.”
^That was my first reaction to hearing about this nutritional game-changer. Bone broth is actually very similar in taste to chicken broth, and you can easily buy it at Costco or really any grocery store. (It tastes a little…”bonier”…that chicken broth, but if you add a little salt and pepper – maybe some garlic powder – it tastes great.) I now sip some out of a mug most mornings for breakfast, or whenever I feel like it, as a snack.
Bone broth is actually sort of a miracle food because it’s hydrating, low calorie, and incredibly high in protein (including collagen protein, which has anti-aging properties and is great for joints and skin. This is critical because your body stops producing collagen as it ages, leading to joint deterioration, but radio-labeled studies show that consumed collagen actually goes directly do your joints and other places where it’s needed in an almost comically convenient manner.)
Bone broth is so satiating that it’s extremely useful for fat loss, its protein content is good for muscle maintenance, and its collagen content keeps your connective tissue healthy. It even helps you sleep better.
In other words, it’s a great health/ recovery food.
Try having a hot mug of it with some spices for breakfast, or as a go-to snack. Anyway.
THERE YOU HAVE IT.
In short – yes, get deep rest. Get good sleep, take full days off.
But also consider throwing in some gentle, loving, easy exercise for active recovery– and keep it so gentle and enjoyable that you can really up the frequency of it.
Test it out, and watch what happens. I think you’ll be very happy.
Alright, today we’re discussing a mental model that can can be useful in helping you make decisions: Expected Value.
Expected Value, often abbreviated “EV,” is a term I first learned about from blackjack, and it encapsulates the amount you would “expect” to make from a certain number of hours of play.
But it is an extremely useful model for decision making elsewhere– in investments, and in life.
To explain the concept, I’ll start with a simple money example.
Say I’m flipping a coin.
If I flip heads, you win a dollar. If I flip tails, you lose a dollar.
Question: How do you feel about that game? And, importantly, do you overall expect to make money at that game?
No. If you were to play it over and over again, you’d probably break even. Sure, you might get lucky, or unlucky, given just one coin toss. But in the long run, flipping that coin a hundred times – you’d win the same amount that you’d lose.
Say I offer you a game where tails, you lose a dollar, but heads, you win two dollars.
How do you feel about playing that game?
That’s a great game to play. Overall, you’d expect to make money from a game like that. Sure, you might flip tails the first time and lose, but if you kept flipping it, you’d win more money than you’d lose. (It’s a positive EV game.)
At it’s core, that’s the ENTIRE concept of “Expected Value” right there.
Now make sure you understand that, because things are gonna get real interesting real fast.
Say I offer you a dice. (Or “die” I guess, is singular).
If you roll a 1 through 5, you lose one dollar. But if you roll a 6, you gain six dollars.
You can play as much as you want.
How do you like that game?
Think it through for a second.
That’s actually a positive EV game. (Don’t worry if you didn’t catch it.) Your wins, though rare, will eventually more than make up for your losses.
What’s funny is – and this is key – if I just hand you that die for one roll, you’re more likely to losethan win.
After all, you have a 5/6 chance of losing, and a 1/6 chance of winning.
But, with repeated play, the wins from that 1/6 chance will slightlymore than make up for all the losses.
To make this concept super obvious, let’s change the payouts:
Roll a 1 through 5, you lose a penny… but roll a 6, you win $1000.
Great game, right? With just one roll, odds are, you’ll lose. You’ll lose a whole a penny. But if you can play as much as you want, you’ll make great money, because the wins more than make up for it.
There it is, you’re an expert in Expected Value.
The mathematical formula for expected value is:
(%odds winning)x(amount you’d win) – (%odds of losing)x(amount you’d lose)
How do we apply this to life?
Well, in investing, if you have some possible investment that has a somewhat decent chance of working out – but the payout in the case of a win is significantly higher than the amount lost in the case of a loss– it may be a good idea to invest somemoney in it, since the Expected Value might be very high.
Repeated, positive EV investments will ultimately payout – as long as the odds of winning are decent enough, and the payout for winning is high enough.
(Of course, since you can’t guarantee any specific investment will work out, it is critical that when EV investing, you make small enough investments that you can in fact do them repeatedly, even if you incur losses. In blackjack, that’s called bankroll management.)
But perhaps my favorite application of this way of thinking is applying it to trying new things – exploring new hobbies and passions; going new places.
Considering trying a new hobby you’ve always thought about?
Or going somewhere new?
There’s always a possibility you’ll love it and it’ll be life-changing.
What are those odds of that? No idea, probably slim. Maybe 10, 20%?
But if you think about it, the expected value on that is actually really high.
So if you’re considering going somewhere new, trying something new, or picking up a new hobby you’ve always thought might be fun: the sheer possibility of loving something in a way that is life-changing makes most new adventuresvery high in expected value.
^I feel like this is pretty insightful, so I’m just gonna take a second to pat myself on the back for that.
Of course, odds are, you won’t fall in love with the first new thing you try.
But that’s okay. If you explore, adventure, travel, and trial enough, the positive EV from trying new things will absolutely eventually pay off.
So get out, learn new skills, go new places, and try new things.
[Especially if you can do it inexpensively], the expected value is enormous.